for Stacey

Find a Man

find a man who buys you Manhattans
and a platter of calamari
on the beach in November

find a man who’s got great hands
a man who’s gentle in good ways
and rough in good ways
and makes a craft out of discovering which way you like it

find a fallible man
they’re the only honest ones
imperfect in all the best ways

find a man who kisses your hands
and your lips
and your forehead
and thinks you’ve got a really great pussy

find a man who will laugh with you
and cry with you
and always ask you to stay after an argument

find a man who treasures your cracks and soft spots
who sees all the light those places let in
a man who wants to know what you really think
and always sees your highest self

find a man who loves his mama
and whose mama makes you feel like 
maybe you found your own
a man who leads you to your tribe

find a man, not a boy
definitely a friend
a partner